Happy New Year, guys! With it being the new year, it seems only right that this post be all about goals! With each new year, most people set new year resolutions which are, essentially, goals. In the barbershop, I often ask people what they want out of life or what they’re trying to do, and a lot of them respond saying “I’m trying to get money” or “I want to be financially free”.
Now I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that, but I think that’s a goal short of an actual goal. You should never really be chasing money; money is just a mediator to your goal. The goal should be something like to buy a house or land, set up a company, look after your family, give your child piano lessons or pay your child’s tuition fee. Money will then be a mediator to the actual goal; a means to help you reach it.
Saying you’re chasing money, or that money is your goal, is the same as someone who wants to build properties saying their goal is to get loads of bricks and cement. The bricks and cement is just part of the process in getting to the actual goal, and money is the same thing.
People need to start thinking about what their actual goals are. Do you want to travel more? Do you want to buy more clothing? Do you want a bunch of toothbrushes? Whatever that goal is, just figure it out.
The first step is to think about what it is you actually want out of life, what it is you want to do, and just write it down. Don’t watch what others are doing, just figure out what you want to do then start striving towards that.
There’s so many different types of goals; big goals, small goals, short-term goals, long-term goals. A short-term goal might be wanting to go to the gym tomorrow, whereas a long-term goal might be wanting to lose 10 stones.
A few years ago, I joined a running crew called Run Dem Crew and ran a half marathon. When I joined, I spoke with the owner, Charlie Dark, and explained my goals; I wanted to complete the half marathon and I wanted to do it in sub 2 hours. He said great we can help you do that, but he told me to go home and write down the reason I’m running. So I did. The next week I went back with my reason and he told me he didn’t want to see it, but that everyone is running for a reason. He said, you need to know the reason why you’re running because when things get hard and you hit the wall, which you will do, knowing the reason as to why you’re running will be the thing that keeps you going. And he was correct. There were times that I hit the wall and remembering the reason as to why I was running kept me going. This is what made me think about goals.
Your goal is the destination you’re trying to get to, you are the vehicle, and the reason why you’re doing what you’re doing is the fuel that’ll get you there. These things all work together; the destination, the vehicle and the fuel.
When I told my PA the topic of this post, she asked me about those who don’t know what their goals are, what do they do if they don’t know what they want out of life? I responded and said everybody wants something out of life. When people say they don’t know what they want, it’s often because they’re looking at what other people are doing and think they should be doing something like them.
Your goals are your goals. You might want to have a family and look after your children. You might want to dedicate your life to helping people. There’s so much in this world you can do! You just have to take time to sit down with yourself and figure out what you enjoy doing and what you want out of life. Don’t look at career paths or anything like that, just think what is the subject of your life, or what do you want the subject of your life to be.
I haven’t spoken about the journey to your goals, but I will do in another post.